Everyone has that friend who is a “Judgmental Judy.” They are in your business judging you as you do everything. It’s these people that we dread the most when we decide to do something that we’ve thought a lot about and fretted over. It’s no different when you decide to get a divorce. You’ll finally open up to your friend, knowing they can be insensitive, but hoping for the best, and the next thing you know they’re as rude as Omarosa during that time of the month. Here’s a few responses you’ll get and how you could respond (of course, we’re a little snarky so you may want nicer responses):
- How about you try counseling before you get a divorce? You have no idea what I’ve done to save my marriage. How about you try being a nice person?
- Have you even thought about your children?Yes, I’ve thought about the future without this divorce and the years of pain they would have to go through being in a house with two unhappy parents. I’ve thought about their future and their views on marriage, and how living in an unhappy environment might scare them away from getting married. My kids are my number one thought. I want them to not fear change and to take initiative to become happier in their lives in the future.
- God doesn’t approve of divorce! God also doesn’t approve of murder, because that’s my other alternative. (Kidding.) This is between me and him. I’ll let God judge me on judgment day. This is not for you to worry about.
- There must be something wrong with you. I’ll worry about working on me, you worry about working on you. If you’re going to act like that, you need a lot of work.
- Aren’t you afraid of being alone at this age?No. The alternative is far worse. I’m not alone. I have friends and family who will be there for me. Further, I have a great group of attorneys on the side of me and my children.
- Get ready to lose half of everything you own. I know! It’s time to redecorate! I hear owls are really in this season! (Or for the men: yeah, no more frills and ruffles. I’m putting hooters everywhere!)
- Told you, you shouldn’t have married that loser in the first place. Yeah, you’re a real psychic. Say, I’m going to Tennessee next week, what numbers should I choose for the lottery?
- Is there another woman/man? I bet there is. Even if there were, that’s none of your business. Do you know what they say when you assume?
- Don’t you feel like a failure? No, I’m giving myself a chance to succeed in love.
- I don’t believe in divorce.This isn’t Peter Pan. Just because you don’t believe in something, doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen.